College Women’s and Gender Studies Brainwahsing

The critical gendered lens

When freshmen sign up for a college-level humanities course oriented toward feminism, women’s or gender studies, they are urged to examine relationships between heterosexual and homosexual individuals through a “critical gendered lens.”[i] These classes, typically filled with women, LGBTQ individuals and a few heterosexual men, are predicated on an examination of gender identification and how identity intersects within other social collectives of power and privilege.

From the outset, attendees are immersed in discussions about the dark side of gendered violence, which is defined as intimidation; emotional, verbal and physical abuse; sexual assault; rape; and the murder of women. Approved textbooks “confirm” the pervasiveness of this far-reaching problem, characterizing it as fact. Gender and Communications maintains, for example, that up to 70% of women will suffer from “systematic gendered violence. [ii][iii]

Faced with this manipulative barrage, it isn’t long before the critical gendered lens of those taking the course is pointed in the desired direction: Women and queer people are socially marginalized and victims of white male power and violence.

Instilling Anarchy 

To understand how this perspective is reinforced, it is helpful to visualize the mind’s eye peering through a telescope, like those used by NASA scientists, to examine the vast universe of human interactions. When feminist intellectuals developed the notion of a filtered perspective, they determined that a socially marginalized lens was the preferred option, rather than, say, one defined by the most powerful women in history, the prominent lesbian and gay men of history, or women who broke gender barriers in professional sports.

Once the critical gendered lens is in place, students are urged to think about their own experiences of being bullied, whether for being different, small or female. They are also encouraged to recall moments when they might have been abused, molested, scolded and disciplined by men. Over time, the association between their personal experiences and gendered inequality becomes ingrained, and many can’t help but feel that systematic oppression is real, leaving some with anarchic leanings.

Instilling Hate for Men

Over time, various subjects, including heteropatriarchy−oppressive male heterosexual dominance−the pay gap, white male privilege, neoliberal capitalism, rape culture, and toxic masculinity, are presented to the class. Although the discussions generally include a range of perspectives, the primary focus is on female and LBGTQ oppression. Not surprisingly, the plight of those who have been “disadvantaged” tugs at the students’ heartstrings, reinforcing the manipulated biases of their young minds. It also spurs a desire among many of them to seek social justice through disorder and activism.

Social Justice Warriors

After 4 to 8 years of immersion in oppression, leaves students uneducated on a real society. Most students cannot get a reasonable job. This appears to be abuse.

 

[iii] http://www.amazon.com/Womens-Voices-Feminist-Visions-Contemporary/dp/007351232X/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1462230154&sr=8-3&keywords=women%27s+voices

 

[iv] http://www.nytimes.com/2015/09/22/us/a-third-of-college-women-experience-unwanted-sexual-contact-study-finds.html?_r=0

 

Emotionally Underdeveloped Husband

( published at The Good Men Project and A Voice For Men )

Society has decided that males are terrible communicators who are not in touch with their emotions. In fact, psychologists often maintain that emotions frighten men and many don’t know what or how they are feeling.[i] The perception that males are emotionally “stunted” often leads females to be upset with them or to pressure them to be more open about what is on their mind. “He just won’t talk,” frustrated wives complain,[ii] while others take a more assertive tack— “Share yourself!” they say. If he doesn’t come around, it means there is something wrong with him.[iii]

Experts point to the fact that little boys are discouraged from crying or opening up about their feelings as some sort of proof that men are toxic, emotionless and without passion. This theme is pervasive in the media and in the arts, at colleges and in other educational settings, and in the discussions and interactions that punctuate daily life, but men have been wrongly stereotyped. The fact is that men and women both have feelings, but they exhibit and express them in different ways.

Men are not dispassionate and unloving; they love deeply and enjoy the tingling textures of the world around them. Internal emotions inform and navigate their behavioral decisions, choices and mental judgments. Like women, they experience relationship pain, joy and everyday thrills, and are able to connect with other people on many levels. However, men do not process certain aspects and interactions, including intimate relationships, in the same way as women do. This largely reflects social conditions and a framework embedded in 400,000 years of human DNA.[iv]

And yet, women can’t help but complain about it. They want their male partners to emote or, perhaps, to cry more. Since many of them express their feelings in this way, they believe men should do so, too. But there is something fundamentally wrong with such assertions. Males are being evaluated based on a female-oriented sensitivity meter, which means the yardstick for emotional responsiveness is inherently biased. Because men are deemed inadequate according to this standard, they are assumed to be seriously lacking.

But this is not fair or accurate. Men and women are not equal. There are a wide range of social and physiological differences between them. That doesn’t only mean the obvious differences between males and females; research has shown that the brains of each sex are hard-wired in contrary neuro pathways. In other words, men and women process emotions by way of different behaviors, patterns, at different times and circumstances.[v] They also communicate emotions differently.[vi]

A Common Complaint about Husbands

It is not uncommon to hear a stay-at-home wife or mother complain about a husband who comes home from a long day at work, heaves a sigh of relief, flops his ass down, and zones out in front of a computer screen.[vii] Invariably, female insecurities bubble to the surface. She is disgusted by his escape into video games.[viii] Her inferiority complex kicks into high gear. She wonders if he has fallen out of love and begins to question their relationship. Because they—or she—expected marriage would make things better, they end up arguing—on average, seven times every day.[ix][x]

Why some men escape to the computer. Since the beginning of time, men have been conditioned to avoid causing emotional distress to women and to protect their feelings. At the same time, females have groomed males to lie whenever necessary. Regardless of how he might feel, a man must tell his woman that she is beautiful, pretty and skinny, and that he loves her unconditionally. He must tell her lies each and every day, or else she will experience severe emotional pain.

If a man speaks the truth— “Life has exhausted me.” “I hate my boss and job.” “The pressure is too much.” “I wish I could quit, but we need the paycheck.” “Your bickering is damaging me further.”—he understands that it will cause her serious emotional harm, leading to escalating arguments and the perception that she is unloved. If that happens, he knows the rest of his life will be hell. It is better to suppress what could be seen as an emotional assault on the woman he loves.

Wives Complain about Husbands

Although times have changed, many couples continue to see their relationship in traditional terms. For her part, a stay-at-home wife or mother will focus on maintaining the family’s accommodations. She decorates and structures the living space to ensure no harm comes to the children. She also implements rules and regulations that tightly control the nest and all of those inside. Under the circumstances, if hubby comes home from work, reaches for a beer, sits in front of the TV and clams up, instead of doing what she asks, it isn’t long before they enter the relationship battle zone.

Why some men escape with beer and TV. Profit-making enterprises invariably harness and monitor an employee’s efforts and abilities by way of rules and the overarching threat that those who don’t go along will not be employed long. Unless a man works for the government or a university, he is usually overseen and pressured by an owner, manager or director. Once at home, he needs time to breathe and allow the pressures from work to seep into the cosmic ether. He needs escape.

What often happens, however, is that when he walks through the door, he is confronted by the expectations of the boss of the domestic empire. After succumbing to the demands of overseers at his job, he is pressured into taking on the duties and obligations imposed by his wife. To many men, this is simply more work. If a man is burdened on the job and at home, he will often escape through alcohol and other substance use.

Without freedom, men become hampered and suppress their genuine selves. Many cherish liberty and independence; once they leave work, they must refresh their souls with a drink of the tasty sovereignty juice. They savor it and let it quench their thirst, replenishing natural virtues. Not all men escape in the same way, of course. Some seek solace through fishing and hunting, reminding them of their place on our planet.

Academia’s Attacks on Men

The pressures men face don’t just come from home and work. Authors of women’s and gender studies textbooks, for example, spend a tremendous amount of time blaming males for all sorts of problems. In Chapter 12, “How Men Silence Women in Marital Relationships,”[xi] of Language and Gender,[xii] which examines the differences in communication between the sexes, Victoria Leto DeFrancisco details a social experiment that “proved” husbands dominate wives through everyday conversations. Her research involved placing recorders inside married couples’ homes and later analyzing what they said. Below is one such conversation, between “Clair” and “Bob”:

Clair:   I went to Safeway food market today.

Bob:    Ah-ha.

Clair:   I ran into your mother.

Bob:    Ran into who?

Clair:   Your mother—she didn’t recognize me or know who I was.

Bob:    Ahhh.

Clair:   She was at the meat counter and I looked right at her.

Bob:    I’ll be right back, I need a cigarette.

Clair:   (When Bob returns.) So I followed her up an aisle. She never looked back.

Bob:    Well, my mom has tunnel vision.

Clair:   And I talked to Duane today, for my dental appointment.

Bob:    Let me go feed the dogs.

According to Dr. DeFrancisco, the wives she studied felt patronized and “put down,” and believed their husbands were “fake listening.” Her conclusion was that women try to talk but that men stubbornly dominate them with patronizing behavior and by ignoring what they say.

An alternative explanation for what happened between Clair and Bob. Family and social drama disturbs many men, but seems to turn on no small number of women. Regardless, in the conversation detailed above, it is just as likely that something else was going on. Perhaps Bob didn’t enjoy discussing the fragile relationship between his mother and his wife. He knows there is friction and that there is no remedy to this particular situation. Since a man’s brain is hardwired to solve problems, he sees no point in confronting his mother. Over time, Bob has become extremely sensitive to his wife’s emotional issues with his mother and is tired of arguing about it.

In reality, it is unfair for Clair to expect Bob to straighten out his mother’s problems or to put up with endless family relationship drama. Unfortunately, while the latter can easily disgust many men, they can’t simply tell their wives to “shut up!” If they do, they will likely end up spending a week sleeping on the couch. In the end, they decide to keep quiet about the all-to-common drama involving a wife and other members of the extended families. Such struggles might be interesting fodder for television, but they can also lead men to snap.

Like many other women’s studies authors, Dr. DeFrancisco has cast unfair aspersions on all males. These academics appear wholly ignorant of the biological differences between the sexes and the workings of the brain.

Conclusion

For the most part, wives, therapists and academics continue to have a serious misunderstanding about men, masculinity and the emotional male. Like the women at a coffee klatch who keep telling old wives tails about defective hubby failures, there are plenty of people who still don’t get how men communicate and operate. Little boys do cry and men are emotionally sensitive. When a man falls in love, the feeling is so overwhelming that he is often imbued with the urge to care for his lover forever. Men shouldn’t be faulted because they aren’t like women. Ignorant and damaging stereotypes should be disregarded, and men should be appreciated for who they really are.

Throughout history, men have willingly sacrificed their own lives for others, demonstrating deep loyalty, affection and respect for their fellow humans—male or female. Men have built our civilizations and have passionately reached for the stars. Some men set their aspirations on mastering unsurmountable obstacles, seeking cures, and innovations that benefit all humankind. Others choose an alternative course. Regardless, for those who are seeking freedom from the entanglements of destructive relationships, there is an option worth considering: Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW). Around the world, men are finding mentorship into a new lifestyle of single-man happiness that is financially and emotionally nourishing and amazing.

About the Author

Tim Patten has recently published MGTOW, Building Wealth and Power. He also wrote WHY I CHEAT  11 campfire stories for men’s ears only. Both books are a celebration of masculinity and pay homage to the modern men’s liberation movement. Patten previously published a novel about establishing gender equality in professional sports, Roller Babes: 1950s Women of Roller Derby.

[i] https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-fitness/201008/men-women-emotions-and-communication

 

[ii] http://www.uncommon-knowledge.co.uk/psychology_articles/men-women-emotions.html

 

[iii] http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/11/15/tf.emotional.men/

 

[iv] http://www.ibtimes.com/oldest-human-dna-400000-years-old-why-do-scientists-call-discovery-irritating-1495796

 

[v] http://www.fitbrains.com/blog/women-men-brains/

 

[vi] https://www.natcom.org/CommCurrentsArticle.aspx?id=749

 

[vii] http://couplestherapyinc.com/emotional-distance-in-marriage/

 

[viii] https://realtruth.org/articles/346-vgaefr.html

 

[ix] http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1389002/Fallout-Couples-argue-average-seven-times-day.html

 

[x] http://www.womenofspirit.com/?id=147

 

[xi] http://das.sagepub.com/content/2/4/413.abstract

 

[xii] http://www.amazon.com/Language-Gender-Reader-Jennifer-Coates/dp/1405191279/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1461271206&sr=8-3&keywords=language+and+gender

 

WOMEN ARE RAPING BOYS and YOUNG MEN

The word “rape” conjures up an image of a helpless young woman being held down and forcefully penetrated, a brutal act that provokes widespread empathy for the victim. Not all sexual assaults fit this description, however; by definition, they can involve any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient, including unwelcome kissing or touching. That said, the meaning of rape in those instances where women are on the receiving end has gradually expanded to include the latter acts and a wide range of inappropriate behavior.

Rape Equality

Unfortunately, what hasn’t changed is the perception that women are the only victims. In fact, the past decade has seen a dramatic increase in the number of incidents of women raping and sexually assaulting boys and men. On May 2014, Jezebel reported a study, where a large portion of teen boys and young men have been forced or coerced into sexual activity by a peer. The study, published in the journal Psychology of Men and Masculinity, 43% of high school boys and young college men reported they had an unwanted sexual experience, and 95% reported that a female acquaintance was the aggressor.[i] Other statistics confirm that men are not the only perpetrators. According to a 2010 National Crime Victimization Survey, which queried 40,000 households about rape and sexual violence, 38% of reported incidents involved women targeting boys and men.[ii]

Unfortunately, the stereotype about rape has had damaging and far-reaching consequences. Commentators such as Mike Lew, author of Victims No Longer, and Mike Hunter, author of Abused Boys, have noted that because there are no prevention programs aimed at thwarting such assaults and so many go unreported, school administrators, police and society at large have the false impression that boys and men are not at risk. That ignorance has allowed the problem to fester. While WND’s list of hundreds of female teachers who were caught raping teenage male students seems long, it likely pales in comparison to the actual number of women who have gotten away scot-free.[iii]

Societal attitudes about female assaults on males

Certainly, attitudes about masculinity and sexual abuse vary greatly. However, western country prejudices generally mean that little boys are shown little or no empathy or their concerns are quickly dismissed if they say that they have been sexually assaulted by a female. For the most part, they are essentially told to…“man up.” While stories about women being raped are widely reported and debated, garnering headlines and grabbing the attention of police, legal and other officials across the country, incidents where men are the victims are rarely covered, if at all.

But the fact is that crimes where men are the victims cause considerable harm. While it is no secret that males enjoy sex, that doesn’t mean unwanted, aggressive coercion is right or appropriate. There is overwhelming evidence that when boys and men are sexually assaulted they suffer post-traumatic stress, guilt, fear, powerlessness, shame, distrust, betrayal, anger, self-harm, flashbacks and depression. Like their female counterparts, they often experience painful and long-lasting issues.[iv]

Unfortunately, these facts don’t seem to matter to those in authority. Generally speaking, school administrators, police, prosecutors, judges, and juries view and treat the issue of male sexual assault less seriously than those cases where woman are the victims. In fact, the notion of female-on-male assault is often dismissed as a joke, helping to sustain the myth that men cannot be raped, and that females who attack males are less serious and less harmful than those who commit “real” rape.

It doesn’t help that those who have been victimized, especially younger males, don’t have an appropriate frame of reference or sufficient knowledge to understand the criminality of the event or series of events. For one thing, governments have not regulated or educated young boys and society on this phenomenon. Now, though, the time is right to draw male rape out from the shadows, shine a light all over it, and bring renewed clarity, equality and hope to solving this serious problem.

The Problem and Statistics

Even when there is no criminality involved or the facts are murky, evidence suggests that women are not the innocents that society seems to think they are, especially where alcohol is involved. In various surveys, men have reported being unwillingly accosted, groped, teased, clutched or massaged on the crotch. Women have shoved tongues down men’s throats or flicked behinds without consent. They joke around and sit on guys knees or laps without asking, wiggling sexually. Some boys and men have even been blackmailed: the female victimizers say that if he don’t have sex with them, they will tell others that the boy or man is gay.

The fact is, millions of boys and men have been coerced or forced into unwanted sexual situations that might not fit the strictest definition of what constitutes an illegal act. According to The National Post,[v] “38.3% college men reported being pressured by women into a range of sexual activity, from kissing and cuddling to intercourse and oral sex. Another survey from the Guardian[vi] found that more men (62.7%) than women (46.3%) had experienced unwanted intercourse. It is not uncommon for male victims to have some association with their offenders; they are often friends, students or teachers.

The damaging emotional fallout from male rape can be seen in brief videos posted by those who have been victimized, including Jerry Liu, who, as a seventh-grader, was assaulted by older and bigger girls (watch video here), and Will, who was raped by a female teacher (watch video here). And lastly here is a 30-minute compilation of news clips titled: Why are So Many Women Raping Boys, offering a variety of disturbing insights about these crimes (watch video here).

Victim Underreporting and the College Double Trauma

As noted earlier, public awareness of this epidemic is virtually absent, leaving victims, many of them youths, lost and unaware. In truth, there are NO or a few clearly defined methods or established locations for those who have been assaulted to report what happened. Schools have little in the way of resources, counseling or policies that are exclusively intended to educate or enlighten. Moreover, most young victims tend to keep quiet about such incidents, partly because they feel intimidated by peers who make homophobic or other disparaging remarks.

Once abused boys and men grow older they may enter higher education and when those who were sexually coerced in their early years reach college, they quickly discover that male-related post-traumatic stress disorder issues and other male-related concerns are generally ignored, overlooked or boycotted. Worse still, campuses are swirling with consent and rape-culture demonstrations that highlight only men as perpetrators who are raping females on campuses all across the country. Those male college students who were victimized in middle or high school end up reliving the nightmare again, overwhelmed by flashbacks and the same traumatic emotions and distress they experienced when the assaults occurred.

Reducing Rape Incidents

By definition, rape is an act of power over another person. Psychologists theorize that such urges develop in some men and women[vii] in childhood, stemming in large measure from misplaced rage.[viii] That said, sexual assault is not a women’s or men’s issue, nor is it a liberal or conservative issue. Rape is a human issue.

Now more than ever, those in positions of authority across the country, especially college administrators, should be taking pains to understand what is leading individuals to commit such heinous acts, and then work to inform everyone concerned and prevent them from happening at all. Boys and young men need education and protective measures that are publically available at all levels, ages and schools. Victims should be encouraged to free themselves from the darkness and report such incidents at appropriate locations.

Like women, boys and men need safe places where they can get help. On college campuses, male studies facilities and programs should be a requisite feature, while in secondary schools, there should be clear policies and programs aimed at ensuring that students, teachers, security and administrators are fully aware of the problem and that counseling and other resources are readily available—not to mention an understanding of the responses that are appropriate in such situations. Only then we can work together to reduce sexual assaults and alleviate the widespread damage it is causing.

Consider petitioning congress by adding your name to Dr. Warren Farrell’s White House Council on Boys and Men[ix] (sign the petition here).

 

About the author

Tim Patten previously published the novel about establishing gender equality in professional sports, Roller Babes: 1950s Women of Roller Derby. His autobiography of self-discovery, My Razzle Dazzle, is penned by Todd Peterson.

 

[i] http://powderroom.jezebel.com/almost-half-of-teen-boys-and-young-men-have-been-sexual-1556730508

 

[ii] http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2014/04/male_rape_in_america_a_new_study_reveals_that_men_are_sexually_assaulted.html

 

[iii] http://www.wnd.com/2014/08/39783/

 

[iv] http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/law-order/female-sex-offenders-trigger-similar-trauma-in-victims-as-male-sex-attackers/story-fni0ffnk-1226626040689

 

[v] http://www.nationalpost.com/news/story.html?id=f926b44a-39c9-4c7d-bc44-24001f40c213

 

[vi] http://guardianlv.com/2014/04/rape-happens-almost-just-as-often-to-men/

 

[vii] http://www.wnd.com/2014/08/39783/

 

[viii] http://www.lifeissues.net/writers/air/air_vol25no2_2013.html

 

[ix] http://www.warrenfarrell.name/

 

Toxic Femininity and Jealousy

We men are the most remarkable and resourceful beings on Earth. Civilization depends on us. Indeed, consider what we have accomplished: we’ve harnessed fire[i] and electricity;[ii] built the Seven Wonders of the World;[iii] and even explored the depths of the oceans and nether reaches of our universe. Our world–from plants to animals to humans–is critically dependent on our ability to hydrate[iv], nourish[v] and energize[vi] all manner of living things. Increasingly, precious resources, including fresh water, the elixir of life, are becoming harder to find. Because of this, each generation relies ever more strongly on us men, especially the youngest among us, as defenders of our future.

When we are born, we inherit the DNA of ancient man’s accomplishments. Over time, our inner strengths and inherent cultural virtues must be allowed to develop and mature, so that everyone can enjoy exceptional lives of freedom, love and success. However, this evolution is often stopped dead in its tracks. One reason is because many of us are no closer to understanding the depths of a woman’s heart, nor the complexity of the female mind, than our fathers, and their fathers, were.

In truth, our biological imperative is repeatedly hijacked or misdirected because of female jealousy and toxic femininity. Often, this happens remarkably quickly, at a time when our fellow humans need us more than ever to help them realize their full potential. Most often, it is because we fall prey to love and instinctual desires that lead us down the path to failed dreams and lost visions.

Young Men and Dating

Imagine you are a 17-year old high school senior who has just retired a dusty old chemistry set to focus on the chemistry of women, instead. You might enjoy joking and messing around with guy friends while looking at magazines–Playboy or Sports Illustrated, perhaps. You visit beaches or parks and glimpse at girls in modest attire. You dream about naked women, masturbate and search online for porn. Like millions of men, you’re completely normal, looking forward to savoring the delights and attractions of woman and their flesh.

After a while, you meet a girl. You are anxious to act on the powerful urges that have been welling inside of you. Her beauty spins your “love dial” higher. The most powerful drug in the universe is coursing through your veins; you are in a state of blissful paradise. After months of flirting and intense courtship, you’re going steady and have become part of an exclusive “item.” She is a hypnotic mystery, one you can’t take your eyes off. She makes you feel like someone with extraordinary powers. Your balls swell and friends see you as “The Man,” the one with the smashing beauty. You are flying higher than you ever have before. It’s the most fantastic experience of all–love–and you don’t want it to stop.

Jealousy Enters the Relationship

Then, all of sudden, things change–like the day when you almost set fire to your bedroom with that chemistry set. She hits you and yells, “Why are you looking at other women?” and “Respect me!” She releases a list of demands: “You can’t talk to other girls–delete them from your digital devices and social media profiles.” She becomes increasingly suspicious, even going so far as to monitor your car mileage. She micromanages every aspect of your life and demands to know who you’ve been speaking with and seeing throughout the day. She questions the time you spend with family and friends or on hobbies or anything else she is not a part of. She becomes extremely emotional and cries regularly.

Your heart drops to the ground. “What the hell happened?” you wonder. Your first instinct is to kowtow and beg for forgiveness. You feel like a jerk and begin to regret not sticking with the single-guy routine of simply jerking off. You’ve seen other girls get mad at their boyfriends, but you assumed they deserved what they got. You haven’t done anything wrong–or have you?

Sadly, like millions of other young men, you have been preyed upon by female jealousy and suspicion–toxic femininity. Unless you can escape, endless drama and repeated confrontations will take center stage in your once-loving relationship. You are at a crossroads. If you make the wrong move, it may well destroy every hope and dream that you ever had.

The fact is, you really need to prepare. You need to learn about the opposite sex and the nature of women, including the jealousy that comes with dating them. You need to learn all of this–fast!

The Origin of Feminine Jealousy

Jealousy reflects insecurity, fear, anger and violent anxiety over an anticipated loss of a human connection. Each of us experiences it; however, not all of us wield it like a weapon that can manipulate and destroy others. This is, in fact, what women do, earning them the hallowed “Golden Asshole Award” for cruelty and recklessness.[vii]

Females have been conditioned by social constructs since time immemorial to believe that they must be thin, beautiful and accommodating, and must strike a nearly impossible balance between being virginal and fuckable, to ensnare and keep men. These primitive behaviors were necessary because women depended on men for survival, protection and food. If females could not maintain their grip, they would starve.

Eventually, they evolved feelings of jealousy that alerted them when meal tickets might be lured away. They would then be driven by an animal-like vengeance to fight for what was theirs, breeding a unique kind of violence. If the battle was lost, they were left vulnerable, exposed to an array of threats.

Like much of the instinctual behavior we inherited from our Neanderthal ancestors, jealousy was useful before we progressed into modern societies. In a civilized world, those living in huge metropolises need to get along. This antiquated emotion is no longer desirable; at the very least, it needs to be better managed. We live in a world of gender equality, where the survival mechanisms of the ancients are no longer beneficial. Instead, they are seriously damaging.

Sadly, many of the women’s movements that have arisen over the past century have failed to address this destructive and obsolete legacy of our primitive past. Toxic jealousy remains in the frontal lobes of many women, spurring them to intimidate, damage and oppress their men, often without realizing it. In reaction to this, men will suppress the brain’s learning centers in favor of survival responses, even if it is only to cope with the drama of a jealous girlfriend. This tragic situation inevitably leads to hopelessness. It is truly a tragedy that such a negative force has held back so many of us, especially those who are young, from achieving our deserved ambitions.

Today’s Relationship Realities

All of us must come to grips with today’s relationship realities, most of which are not being adequately addressed or discussed. Contrary to popular opinion, women are often more aggressive, dominant and controlling than men.[viii] This puts undue stress on us; we face the dizzying conundrum of how to manage interactions that are ostensibly loving but painfully oppressive. Oftentimes, we suffer our lover’s violent rages because they falsely suspect us of infidelity or of coveting other women.[ix] Based on gut feelings alone, women will often lash out and destroy property. They will create lies. They will poison our relationships with friends and, in some cases, completely ruin our lives. Sadly, society and most men simply laugh this off. It’s a gesture that reflects outdated perspectives of a time when only men did the fighting.

But the fallout from feminine jealousy is not just a tragedy; it’s also a waste. When we could be doing something positive for the future of a relationship, we are undermined and trampled on, instead. We are held back even as we struggle to prove the depth and strength of our “true love.”[x] If women don’t trust us, they will pester, nag and question us. Passionate discussions invariably turn into heated arguments.

Such outcomes are the catalyst for many incidents of domestic violence. However, no matter who might initiate the bickering that leads to pushing or hitting, men are usually singled out as the women-beaters—and are often jailed for it.[xi] There are entrenched social and law enforcement biases that assume males are at fault when, in reality, women’s jealousy and aggression facilitates millions of violent acts every year. [xii][xiii] Disturbingly, this behavior is also responsible for the murder of over 1,200 Americans annually.[xiv][xv]

Managing Jealousy

It can’t be said enough: jealousy has outlived its usefulness. Most of us will carry on into our eighties and we will have several lovers; life is too short to be constantly hit with this negative destructive emotion. But it can be managed if we–both men and women–face it head on, overcoming the feelings that stir inside of us. Unfortunately, people who have not mastered their jealousies are not fit for dating. But that doesn’t mean that they or any of us who are caught in their grip can’t move forward. Whether we engage in introspection or learn from others, it is possible to emancipate ourselves. Articles like “How to Break Free,”[xvi] “Five Techniques to Break from Jealousy,”[xvii] or “Overcome Jealousy and Be Happy”[xviii] can show us how.

Young Men’s Education

Gloria Steinem once told her millions of loyal female minions, “The surest way to be alone is to be married.” In reality, Ms. Steinem should have said that this message was for us men as well. Perhaps she should have added, “Monogamy and marriage are not only lonely but they’re an emotional hell for many men.” For no small number of us, the phrase, “till death do us part,” might be our blessed relief.

Where can we learn about female nature, marriage and divorce? Sadly, the educational system and the mainstream media are not reliable sources, but–and this is the good news–there are alternatives! Thousands of men are pouring their hearts and souls into online videos, spilling their guts and sharing their experiences for one and all. If we search for “MGTOW” on YouTube, we can find a connection or a compatriot, or perhaps someone to mentor us. Among those worth listening to are Sandman, Barbarossa, Thinking Ape, Turd Flinging Monkey, CS MGTOW, Jay De Black and many others. There is someone out there for all of us, regardless of our age or background.

These and other efforts can help to facilitate our awareness of the misguided and emotionally harmful ways that women interact with men. Without this knowledge, many of us can easily find ourselves confused, manipulated and trapped by sex and love.

Choose your Destiny

There’s little doubt that toxic femininity’s tentacles of jealousy can suffocate dreams and desires. Being free from these envious constraints allows us to choose a far more liberating and enlightened future. Some of us may well be destined for fatherhood, raising America’s future leaders alongside a quality partner. But others might decide that they would rather seek a cure for Alzheimer’s disease, colonize Mars, or mine space minerals on an asteroid. Grab hold of the emotional levers and dials and put every ounce of passion into achieving your true–and incredibly awesome–potential.

About the Author

Tim Patten authored the newly released MGTOW, Building Wealth and Power. He also wrote WHY I CHEAT11 campfire stories for men’s ears only. Both books are a celebration of masculinity and they pay homage to the modern men’s liberation movement.

 

[i] http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/80beats/2011/03/15/scientist-smackdown-when-did-europeans-first-harness-fire/#.Vsu6HuaAnfc

 

[ii] http://www.universetoday.com/82402/who-discovered-electricity/

 

[iii] http://world.new7wonders.com/?n7w-page=new7wonders-of-the-world

 

[iv] http://www.globalchange.umich.edu/globalchange2/current/lectures/freshwater_supply/freshwater.html

 

[v] http://www.nwfpa.org/the-news/1469-new-food-resources-education-institute-launched-to-unite-food-industry-address-food-safety-and-ensure-complaince

 

[vi] https://mitei.mit.edu/research/global-systems/energy-needs-developing-world

 

[vii] http://time.com/3658327/jealousy-cheating-men-women/

 

[viii] http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2669408/Rise-female-relationship-terrorists-Study-finds-women-controlling-aggressive-partners-men.html

 

[ix] http://news.health.com/2015/01/14/straight-men-more-prone-to-jealousy-over-sexual-infidelity-study/

 

[x] https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-proof/201504/when-women-use-jealousy

 

[xi] http://www.livescience.com/22039-domestic-violence-often-triggered-by-jealousy.html

 

[xii] http://www.americanbar.org/groups/domestic_violence/resources/statistics.html

 

[xiii] http://www.livescience.com/22039-domestic-violence-often-triggered-by-jealousy.html

 

[xiv] http://www.livescience.com/22039-domestic-violence-often-triggered-by-jealousy.html

 

[xv] http://www.weirdworm.com/5-murders-that-happen-because-of-jealousy/

 

[xvi] https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anxiety-files/200805/jealousy-is-killer-how-break-free-your-jealous-feelings

 

[xvii] https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/romance-redux/201104/five-ways-kick-the-jealousy-habit

 

[xviii] http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/relationship_jealousy.html

 

Women: Where Are the Good Men?

Right now, all over the world, millions of women are searching for a “good man.”[i] Even after decades of effort on the part of the women’s liberation movement to empower women with the mantra, “I do not need a man,” they continue on this seemingly endless quest.

The process to find a good man begins early by assuring little girls that they’ll “meet a good partner one day”. Indeed, they seem to intuitively understand that someone, someday, will take care of them for the rest of their lives. They are told, “When you’re married, you’ll be happy,” as they bask in dreams of a fancy wedding and a life with a perfect soul mate. He’ll be masculine, he’ll work hard and he’ll earn enough money to care for his woman and for her children. He will be strong, intelligent, healthy and courageous – all the while being by her side for protection and suppor

For men however, it is a different story. We don’t ask for much. We like our women to be attractive and have a job. We like them to enjoy sex, and we like them to provide us with companionship. What we don’t want is for them to try to change us.

It is these dichotic extremes that lie at the root of the modern global gender liberation phenomenon.[ii] A dichotomy where women are driving good men away.

Women and Society

The fact is that women and society at large have systematically stacked mountains of needs, obstacles and expectations in front of us men, challenging us to measure up to impossible standards of masculinity at every stage of our lives. Boys fend off schoolyard bullies, teenage males strut their stuff, and men feel compelled to protect females from even the slightest random belligerence. We are like cub scouts consigned to, among other things, helping little old ladies cross the street to earn our “real man” badge.

For the most part, women’s, gender studies and society at large skirt around male suicide[iii] and other related issues. But this must stop. It is time to zero in on who – and what – is corralling men into the destructive confines of hegemonic masculinity.

One obvious question is this: Where is the relentless demand for the “good man” coming from? In truth, this gender “policing” abomination is perpetrated by everyone, whether they are aware of it or not. It reflects a gynocentric society rife with the crumbling artifacts of institutionalized patriarchy. But that is not the whole story. Most of the time, those we love most – especially the women many of us spend our lives chasing – place this straightjacket of idealized masculinity on us. They are a favorite object of love and desire and in return, they expect stereotypical masculine perfection. Many hold dear those things that will elevate partners to “good man” status. Our girlfriends, wives and significant others wield this power over us like a sword, or they leave us with hurdle after hurdle to jump over.[iv]

Relationships Between Men and Womem

One day every young girl grows up and finds her true love, a good man, and an exclusive relationship ensues. The couple becomes entangled and sometimes will marry. Suddenly the man’s responsibilities and demands skyrocket. Some men undoubtedly love the challenges of manhood and they experience a certain male pride when they assume responsibility for looking after a woman for the rest of her life. But for others, the burden of living up to an idealized version of manhood often leads to great stress and intense feelings of shame, anxiety, depression, and in extreme cases, suicide.[v] These marital burdens have created an escape phenomena for many men.

Women often try to control their man by slapping, hitting, and throwing him out of their homes. Oddly, society and even many men seem to approve of this abuse. In fact, some of us do not seem to care if loving a woman is dangerous. It seems that for many females, the fear of male domination echoes incessantly inside their heads. To dodge male authority, women go on the offensive and begin subjugating and manipulating men to ensure that they won’t be oppressed.

They also try to hammer us into submission with their words. They’ll say things like, “He’s a little boy who needs to grow up and act like a man.” They make us feel guilty and shame us with ridicule. Another common refrain is, “If you were a real man, you’d…”, along with other self-serving diatribes like, “If you love me you’d man-up, earn more and help me at home”.

The woman’s weapon of choice is a sharp tongue. While the things they say might smack of moral authority and loving concern, they often cut deeper than physical violence. The intent is to strike at our inherent male core. Many women are experts at inflicting pain through words alone while others rely on tactics like bickering and nagging to stoke our insecurity even more. This has the potential to force even the most independent and self-assured of us to cower—or worse. As an example of how critical this issue has become, a 2014 study found that verbal abuse was often a catalyst for husband suicides.[vi]

Male Fear

Our worst fear is being seen as something other than male. We can be humiliated and devastated by any suggestion that, because of passivity or effeminacy, we might be like a woman. We live in perpetual anxiety about being considered weak, gay, unfit or “unmanly”; it is our Achilles’ heel. When women demand that we be a “real man,” our adrenaline spikes; when they shout, “Man-up!” we become agitated. When they undermine our masculinity, our pride is destroyed.

And yet, women are the ones who are often afraid. They are so frightened by our powerful maleness that they command us to submit. But many women don’t seem to grasp the emasculating impact that their abuse can have. Lacking our biology, they cannot understand our emotions at their most primal level. They only see that we react and comply. They have no real understanding of the damage their reckless behavior can cause.

The Role of the Women’s Movement

We should not have to succumb to the shackles placed on us by the women’s rights and social justice movements either. In theory, these hugely successful campaigns were intended to level the playing field between men and women. In reality however, many have been hijacked by extremists and then misinformed for nefarious purposes. While these hardline activists try to make their mission sound noble, their words often betray then, as evidenced by the popular media battle cries below:

“R.E.S.P.E.C.T.”…“I am woman”…“Hear me roar”…“Ladies first”…“This is a woman’s world”…“Nobody can hold us down”…“She dominates all access”… “You don’t own me”…“We run this mutha”… “If you like it, put a ring on it”…“Who runs the world? GIRLS!”

Over time, the drive for equality has been transformed into a crusade for female advantage and a strategy for imposing their worldview on men. Women have been given special rights and they’ve signed misguided legislation into law – legislation that benefits them at our male expense. Many of these so-called women’s movements have devolved into full-fledged man-hating struggles for gender supremacy, inspiring a significant backlash.[vii][viii]

The Role of Sex

Unfortunately, our biological imperatives make things complicated and difficult. Even when women’s demands are entirely unreasonable, most of us will comply because we are motivated by powerful and instinctual urges, most notable of which is our male sex drive. It is still not clear why society views this as an acceptable form of coercion and something used for the purpose of harnessing masculinity’s unruly nature.

Once our male sexual appetite is triggered, we kowtow into submission, potentially sacrificing our long-term health and financial wellbeing by clinging to the false belief that physical intimacy is our reward for being “good.” We are not just compelled to ‘save the women and children first’. In many respects, we have become “vagina beggars”. Like lemmings, we follow a dangerous and potentially disastrous course. We have become imprisoned, and women hold the key.

Liberation and Discovering Happiness

As Bob Dylan once wrote, the times they are a-changin’. Years of submission to abusive treatment and acquiescing to unrealistic expectations have taken their toll, and many of us are starting to ask some very pointed questions. Do we deserve to be treated like workhorses? Are we supposed to sit back and become totally marginalized, similar to how males in certain matriarchal African villages were relegated by the female leadership to the lowest rungs of the social ladder?[ix] Will we become nothing more than “manginas,” capriciously and carelessly manipulated at the whims of our female overlords?

For millions of us, the answer to those questions is a resounding “no!” Good men around the world have decided to go their own way, and like us, they understand that there is nothing wrong with men or masculinity. They understand that they do not need to be schooled by women nor do they need to be enslaved to the family with little reward. A tsunami of male sovereignty is sweeping across our planet and we are grabbing the sword of opportunity to enlighten ourselves.

This growing movement of masculine awareness goes by many names – MGTOW, the Red Pill and Herbivore men. This new paradigm is helping us to understand our true selves, our unique assets and the techniques we can employ to end our toxic entanglements with women. We’re learning how to liberate ourselves from a primitive and self-destructive social order. We’re speaking out and helping to empower others to break free from the bonds of the biased relationship expectations of love, marriage and myopic monogamy – expectations that are enforced with female violence.

A New World

Gloria Steinem recently asked on Real Time with Bill Maher, “What’s wrong with people using their talents and doing what they want?” As men, we want that liberation as well. For many of us, this is a new and exciting environment, and it’s quickly changing for the better. It is a world where we can finally do what we want and work at the things that we love.

It doesn’t matter whether we enjoy tinkering with automobiles, flying kites, dancing in a ballet, playing sports or prepping ourselves so that we may, by choice rather than compulsion, become leaders, inventors and creators. We seek to express and enjoy our innermost interests and talents, rather than toil endlessly in the pursuit of a life of inequality and lopsided relationships. We are realizing our right to define who we are, and we are choosing our higher purpose.

As men, we are amazing; we have the qualities and drive to change the world. Only now, it is our own decision to make. No longer condemned to live a life dictated by women and their obsolete restrictions, we can shed the debilitating confines of social expectation and truly relish the fruits of our labors. It is time to unleash the full potential of men in our society. A life of freedom and happiness awaits us!

About the Author

Tim Patten is a retired software engineer and author of newly released MGTOW Building Wealth and Power. He also wrote WHY I CHEAT11 campfire stories for men’s ears only. Both books are a celebration of masculinity and pay homage to the modern men’s liberation movement.

 

 

 

[i] http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Good-Man

 

[ii] http://www.avoiceformen.com/sexual-politics/m-g-t-o-w/mgtow-a-worldwide-boycott-of-marriage/

 

[iii] http://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2012/09/24/the-gender-inequality-of-suicide-why-are-men-at-such-high-risk/#5c72f2f222f3

 

[iv] http://birth-by-silence.deviantart.com/journal/55-Ways-to-Treat-Your-Girl-like-a-Princess-229866273

 

[v] http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/11430096/Its-society-not-biology-that-is-making-men-more-suicidal.html

 

[vi] http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2623873/You-really-nagged-death-Excessive-demands-partners-double-risk-dying-middle-age.html

 

[vii] http://feminismisahatemovement.tumblr.com/

 

[viii] http://www.womenagainstmen.com/media/feminism-is-a-hate-group.html

 

[ix] https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/video/the-land-of-no-men-inside-kenyas-women-only-village

 

 

WHEN MEN BASH WOMEN

Twelve million Americans between the ages of 18 and 32 are affected by domestic violence every year.

Jack Robinson was from Milwaukee. He was a 21-year old auto mechanic who had spent most of his adult life chasing and idolizing women. He enjoyed playing video games, joking with coworkers and hanging out with friends. One day, he hoped to meet that special someone.

Jack Meets Shelly

Unfortunately, Jack hadn’t had much success with women. For reasons he couldn’t understand, they usually didn’t approach him. Hoping to change this, he had adopted an almost larger-than-life persona that he believed they would find hard to resist–or so he thought.

Jack knew that modern-day mating rituals require stamina and hard work. Before his cotton-candy dreams could come true, his pedigree, zip code and medical history would be scrutinized and compared to those of others. He made sure he was prepared.

Fearful of rejection and unsure about what would work best, Jack convinced himself that he should be seen as a hybrid–a girlish Taylor Lautner and a swaggering Chris Pratt. It was a tall order, but he tempered his anxiety by reminding himself that, should he fail to close the deal or get a phone number, he could salvage his ego with a beer and a visit to the nearest girlie bar.

Jack lived in a mega-universe of horny studs, all competing for the same thing. With average looks and a lack of confidence, he knew he was not exactly Zac Efron, perched atop the dating food chain.

Still, when he met one of the most beautiful women he had ever seen, he decided it was time for a change. He resisted feelings of hopelessness and assumed a casual stance, ignoring his racing heart and the sweat trickling down his sides. Forcing a confident grin, he walked up to her and said, “Hello, my name is Jack.”

The woman stared back, but he didn’t flinch. He worried that she might see through his cocksure veneer.

She smiled. “My name is Shelly.”

“Hi, Shelly. Can I buy you a drink?”

“Why not?”

The tension inside abated. Jack steered her toward the bar and she ordered a cocktail. As they talked, warmth radiated from her. He learned her name was Shelly Peterson, and that she was a patient care assistant at the local hospital.

As minutes turned to hours, he leaned in, absorbing each word and gesture. When her glass was half-empty, he bought another round. His heart felt flush, but he kept the conversation light; he steered clear of controversial subjects and deeply personal questions. Soon, he was hyperaware of his physical self. He planted his feet apart, propped a casual elbow on the bar, and raised an eyebrow.

Shelly’s body language said she was open and relaxed. Jack’s mind raced and he savored thoughts of what might happen next. Would they have sex? It didn’t matter, he decided. They were having a lot of fun. Besides, he already had her number.

Dating

The connection was instant: their two beating hearts sprouted wings with every flattering word, each pleasurable touch. Spirits soared wildly, free of the twisted wreckage of half-forgotten lovers.

Jack had much to learn about his new-found companion. She was an enigma, a cache of unexpected delights. He worked hard to behave just right on every date. He kept the conversation light–no religion, no politics. After sharing their innermost selves, they shared their flesh, wrapped up in each other’s pleasure. In the months that followed, they got to know each other well, inside and out.

Eventually, the relationship became serious. One night at the chic Stanford Restaurant, Shelly’s eyes met Jack’s. “Men have hurt me in the past.”

Jack swallowed a mouthful of steak and his eyebrows arched. “Oh?”

“I once caught an ex cheating on me. It made me feel so worthless.” Shelly’s eyes welled up as her shoulders curved forward.

Jack’s protectiveness was instinctive and immediate. “I would never do that to you.” He reached across the table, taking her hand.

“He really hurt me. I don’t ever want to go through that again.” Shelly wiped her eyes with a napkin and tried to smile. Her fingers trembled.

Jack was overwhelmed by the desire to hold her and keep her safe. “I’ll see to it that you don’t,” he said softly, squeezing her hand.

Shelly stared into his face for a few moments. “Are you sure?” Her tone bore more than a hint of accusation.

“You can trust me. I’m not like those other guys.”

Her demeanor softened. “Thank you,” she said, demurely picking up her fork and returning to her salad.

In that moment, Jack vowed to give her all the comfort and attention she would ever need. The decision made him feel good. It made him feel strong.

The Next Level

Ten months later, Shelly told Jack, “I think I’m falling in love with you.”

A buzzing noise slowly spiraled in his head. “Me, too,” he proudly declared. He kissed her warmly.

“I think we should take our relationship to the next level,” Shelly said.

Jack adored Shelly, so he readily agreed. “Sure! Why not?”

“We should be exclusive.”

Jack hesitated. “Exclusive…of course.”

“Jack, you could be the one for me. We could have what my parents and grandparents had.”

“Thank you.” He blushed.

And just like that, the trajectory of his life changed. Jack’s every move was now aligned with Shelly and her goals. A fresh and exciting future awaited them.

Monogamy: First Month

They celebrated their one-month anniversary at her favorite restaurant. Halfway through, Shelly asked, “Where do you think is the best place to raise children?”

With his fork frozen halfway between the plate and his mouth, Jack blinked. He had never considered kids and didn’t know what to say. Thinking about her question, Jack’s eyes mindlessly followed the denim-clad bottom of an attractive woman who walked through the door.

Shelly kicked him under the table. “Why are you looking at her?”

Jack flinched. He lowered his head and his stomach sank. “Don’t you ever look at other guys?” he asked quietly.

“Never!” she said, a wounded look in her eyes.

“No?” Jack didn’t believe her. He felt chastised and small. He never thought that merely looking at someone would cause any harm, especially to Shelly, the love of his life. He wanted to ask her why she felt like this, but he did not want to do so when she seemed so upset. He was on eggshells until they finished.

On the way home, he decided it was probably best to smooth things over rather than risk upsetting her again. He promised he would try not to ogle other women in future.

When they arrived back home, Shelly turned suddenly and asked, “Do you think she’s prettier than me?”

Jack felt like he was being scolded by his mother. His throat constricted and he rubbed the back of his neck. “Of course not.”

Shelly flared her nostrils. “This isn’t the first time I’ve noticed you checking out other women.”

“But sweetheart, that stuff doesn’t mean anything. I’m with you, aren’t I?”

“I’m watching you.” Shelly’s eyes narrowed to menacing slits.

“I’m sorry, baby. I won’t do it again.” He tried to kiss her.

She turned her face and brushed him away. “If you want me to stay with you, you’ll have to treat me right.”

Jack’s heart sank. “Okay,” he mumbled, fumbling with the key.

He opened the front door and skulked into the house. He headed straight for the bathroom, slamming the door shut and flipping the latch. He could hear her whining morosely in the hallway, “You promised you’d never hurt me.”

Monogamy: Fifth Month

As days and weeks passed, Jack floated through a dreamy wonderland of love and intimacy. Every morning, birds chirped and the coffee perked while the couple lay nestled in each other’s arms. Whenever they argued, make-up sex always brought him back into line with her views.

Then one Friday morning, Shelly asked, “Are you going out with the guys tonight?”

Jack was already halfway out the door. He paused midstride. “Of course. Just like every Friday.”

“When are you going to get tired of that?” she asked, suddenly annoyed.

“Umm…never? What do you mean?”

She put her hands on her hips. “I always thought you’d grow out of it.”

“Out of what? Having a blast?” Jack felt a rush of adrenaline course through his veins. “I’m twenty-two. It’s practically my job to have a good time.”

“Are other women there?” Her face looked pinched and strange.

Jack’s heart skipped a beat. “It’s a bar. Of course there are women there.”

Shelly pressed her lips into a line. “You know that makes me uncomfortable. Do you talk to them?” Her eyes were blazing.

Jack suppressed a groan. He shook his head and gulped. “Come on, baby. I don’t go there to meet women. I just like hanging out with the guys.”

She lifted her chin, indignant. “I don’t believe you.”

Jack’s skin began to crawl. He could feel a flush spreading across his face.

“Are you seeing someone else?” she asked, as she jabbed a finger near his face.

“No! Of course not. I love you, Shelly.”

She squared her shoulders and turned to him. They stood toe-to-toe. “Do you hit on other women?”

Jack’s stomach was doing somersaults. The others were all single and spoke openly about women. Sometimes he played along just to get a laugh, but that was all. He felt guilty, but he wasn’t sure why, since he hadn’t done anything wrong.

“Tonight you’re coming straight home after work.” Shelly folded her arms across her chest.

“What? But the guys—we’ve been doing this for years!”

“It’s either them or me,” she said. “The choice is yours.”

Jack felt as if he’d been kicked in the gut. “Leaving?”

I’m your girlfriend. You should be spending all your time with me.”

Jack stood there. His mouth tasted bitter and his stomach coiled into a knot. He thought about the many wonderful Friday nights he had spent laughing and backslapping with his friends. His eyes lost some of their shine.

“You said you loved me!”

“I do.” Jack pulled himself to his full height. He sincerely wanted to see her happy.

“You do what?”

“I do love you,” he sighed, feeling frustrated.

Shelly shifted her weight and crossed her arms over her breasts. A smug smile played on her lips. “Well, then,” she said, “I’ll see you here right after work.”

Jack’s mind began to sift through a million memories at once. Could he go without her love, their intimacy? After a moment, his mind cleared. Lifting his head, he beamed. “I love you to death,” he said.

“Then from now on, you’ll spend Friday nights with me.”

“Of course, honey.”

Jack had surrendered. Those boys’ nights of drinking, cajoling and child-like foolishness were over. At work, some of his co-workers began to act a little frosty. He told himself it didn’t matter. He wanted to make Shelly happy, whatever the cost.

Monogamy: Eighth Month

Jack tried his best, but Shelly wasn’t satisfied. She kept telling him to treat her right. Perhaps they had different notions of what that meant, he thought. Jack Googled those words and found dozens of detailed items; all required one change or another on his part. He began to tremble.

Jack worked his way down the list, putting in extra time and effort. He lowered the toilet seat after each use, picked up after himself, puts his shoes away, stopped passing gas outside the bathroom, and remembered to take out the trash. He did anything he could think of.

Soon, though, Jack began to forget who he was. He became a virtual servant to Shelly and her needs. His soul became empty and dark as his identity faded. He drank a few beers each night because they dulled his inner thoughts. He returned to his favorite porn sites and masturbated a lot. It was the only excitement he had left in his life.

The door opened. Shelly came in and her eyes widened. “You’re watching porn,” she shrieked.

Jack almost jumped out of his skin. He hid his face and waited for her to leave.

“Is this love?” she shouted.

“Hey, Shelly. I’m only jacking off. What’s the big deal?”

His irate girlfriend paced the room like a bullfighter. She turned to him and said, “Give me your Facebook password.”

Jack’s muscles tensed. He eased his shorts back over his knees. “Can’t I have some privacy?” he complained.

“I thought we agreed that couples shouldn’t have secrets from each other.”

When Shelly reached for Jack’s smartphone, he nudged her hand away. He grabbed the handset and held it tight against his chest. Sweat appeared on his brow. He raised his chin and gave her a defiant gaze. “I don’t have to prove anything to you,” he said quietly.

“You’re a liar and a cheat,” she screamed in his face. “Give me your phone!”

Jack sighed. He was weary of her aggressive demands and groundless distrust. He tightened his grip. After giving in and changing so much since their relationship began, he needed one part of his life to be just his own. “Get away from me.” he asked, pleading.

Shelly’s eyes darkened as the back of her hand slammed his face. “Give it to me!” she shouted. The rage in her voice was palpable and frightening.

Terrified, Jack let go of the phone. It snapped back with her hand, bashing her in the mouth.

“I’m sorry,” he said.

Shelly touched her bloody lips. “You bastard,” she moaned. Tears streamed down her face. She dialed 911.

When the police arrived, Shelly’s injury was still visible, while the red mark on Jack’s face had already faded. After taking just minutes to hear his side, Jack was arrested, a domestic battery charge on his record. Shelly was sent to the emergency room, where she found comfort in the hands of hospital colleagues.

Lessons Learned by Jack Robinson

  • He will not be responsible for a girlfriend’s past emotional injuries or allow her to hold him emotionally hostage.
  • He will ensure that boundaries are immediately set if a girlfriend attempts to treat him disrespectfully, because potential sex is not worth actual humiliation.
  • If a girlfriend is distrustful and suspicious about everything he does, he will break things off forever and eliminate the toxic relationship.
  • He will not tolerate slapping and other violent acts by a girlfriend. He will contact authorities, leave her immediately, and never have physical or other relations with her again.
  • He understands that the legal system is often biased against men and will be sure to keep evidence on hand if there might be any doubts about his innocence.

About the Author

Tim Patten is a retired software engineer and author of newly released MGTOW Building Wealth and Power. He also wrote WHY I CHEAT – 11 campfire stories for men’s ears only. Both books are a celebration of masculinity and pay homage to the modern men’s liberation movement.

Empowered American Women : 2016

In the past 50 years women have made incredible strides! Today, women, led by the highly privileged among them, are at the helm of society, industry and politics. Did society give too many rights to women and leave men behind?

Take a look at America’s growing white female privilege checklist for 2016.

In today’s modern patriarchal society, she…

  • Expects to be treated more leniently by the courts than any man committing a similar crime.[i]
  • Can choose to abort her unborn child, or farm it out for adoption, without taking account of the father’s wishes.[ii]
  • Can reap the benefit of affirmative action schemes that facilitate access to cheap loans, female-oriented fellowship programs, and grants that provide her with an unfair advantage over male competitors.[iii]
  • Can make false accusations of sexual abuse and most likely get away with it, while a man is forced to suffer social shame, risks imprisonment and is labeled a sex offender.[iv]
  • Enjoys physical, emotional and financial support, as well as free legal advice, from female-focused crisis centers. Comparable networks for men who suffer abuse at women’s hands simply do not exist.[v]
  • May call 911 with unfounded claims of physical violence and sexual assault by men and expect the police to believe her claims. Her accusation is reason enough to get a man thrown into jail while he is investigated. In cross-gender crimes, it is invariably the man who is guilty until proven innocent.[vi]
  • Will probably never see the inside of jail or prison, unlike one in three black and brown males.[vii]
  • Belongs or belonged to the 60% female majority on college campuses across the U.S. who have been protected by organizations created solely to provide safe havens, form policies and offer consultations that support women’s social and psychological needs. Support groups that deal with “male issues” remain in their infancy.[viii]
  • Is presumed innocent of sexual assault claims, while men must prove their lack of guilt. In fact, many men are punished without proof.[ix]
  • Generally has no need to fear any consequences for abusing a male partner in public. She may hit, slap and scold him; he is socially bound to accept her actions without retaliation.[x]
  • Regularly plays the “weaker sex” card at work. She will ask men to lift heavy objects or retrieve something from a high shelf. But if he asks her to bring him a cup of coffee, he risks facing a charge of sexual harassment that could cost him his job.
  • Controls 85% of America’s spending power and is the coveted target of massive marketing attention. Privileged white women are the Holy Grail of the modern advertising machine; men, in contrast, are often the butt of jokes that ridicule their intelligence or masculinity.[xi]
  • Is part of the 58% majority of the U.S. workforce who are women.[xii]
  • Has a 70% or greater chance of getting hired for a job than a man, even in the traditionally male-dominated STEM fields.[xiii] [xiv]
  • Earns more than men her age when she is in her twenties.[xv]
  • Stands a better chance of starting a business than a man. More than ten million women own and operate their own companies, with a great many receiving affirmative action assistance.[xvi]
  • Can breast feed in public.
  • Uses misandry as a weapon. She forms bonds with her “sisters” and encourages slander of the male character amid wild accusations about the oppression of women.[xvii]
  • Can be confident that when she smiles sweetly and flicks her hair, male co-workers will drop everything to do her bidding.
  • Expects and usually demands that the man picks up the tab on a date.[xviii]
  • Is far less likely to become the victim of violence or murder than a man, regardless of ethnicity.[xix]
  • Is considered “normal” if she chooses to be one of the 10 million single moms in the U.S. A single father, however, is generally regarded as a failure of some kind.
  • Expects, if Canadian, to join the privileged ranks of the women who occupy 50% of the top political posts in that country.
  • Will have received enormous encouragement as a child to strive for any dream or goal she might have.
  • Has grown up in an environment that glorifies feminization and scolds or punishes boys for being less well behaved than girls.[xx] [xxi]
  • Can turn on the TV and expect to find that her “sisters” are well respected and disproportionately represented in the news.[xxii]
  • Usually ends up with custody after a divorce and often receives government assistance to support herself and her offspring.[xxiii]
  • Will freely date other men or partners after a split, with an eye toward finding a new ‘provider’ for her family.[xxiv]
  • Can, if she chooses, negotiate a division of labor with her marriage partner, and subsequently file for a no-fault divorce if, at any time, she becomes dissatisfied.[xxv]
  • Enjoys the natural attention bestowed upon her by men. She can expect to be treated like a queen,[xxvi] [xxvii] while her wedding day remains solely her day![xxviii]
  • Is never expected to lift heavy objects or perform any sort of difficult or dangerous task if there is an able-bodied male close by.[xxix] [xxx]

The age of the “privileged white woman” is upon us

But it’s not too late. People are supporting and donating to men’s collectives, men’s gender issue programs on college campuses, and Red Pill groups such as the NCFM. Organizations like Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW) are springing up everywhere. More and more of us are breaking free of the invisible chains and seeking our destiny in a new world where women no longer control and manipulate us at will. You, too, can join the movement. Be a man…again!

By Tim Patten, author of the MGTOW classic, Why I Cheat, and the March 2016 book, MGTOW: Building Wealth and Power.

[i] http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/11/men-women-prison-sentence-length-gender-gap_n_1874742.html

 

[ii] http://www.washingtonwomenforchoice.com/

 

[iii] http://nwlc.org/resources/affirmative-action-and-what-it-means-women/

 

[iv] http://www.wsj.com/articles/alan-m-dershowitz-a-nightmare-of-false-accusation-that-could-happen-to-you-1421280860

 

[v] http://wrcnepa.org/

 

[vi] http://www.avvo.com/legal-guides/ugc/false-complaints-of-domestic-violence-dv

 

[vii] http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/04/racial-disparities-criminal-justice_n_4045144.html

 

[viii] http://www.forbes.com/sites/ccap/2014/12/29/the-disappearing-male-on-college-campuses/

 

[ix] http://www.foxnews.com/us/2015/06/20/accused-is-guilty-campus-rape-tribunals-punish-without-proof-say-critics/

 

[x] http://jezebel.com/5173723/the-double-standard-is-women-hitting-men-ever-okay

 

[xi] http://she-conomy.com/facts-on-women

 

[xii] http://www.dol.gov/wb/stats/stats_data.htm

 

[xiii] https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2015/04/14/study-finds-surprisingly-that-women-are-favored-for-jobs-in-stem/

 

[xiv] http://www.rsc.org/chemistryworld/2015/04/women-twice-likely-be-hired-men-academic-posts

 

[xv] http://www.theguardian.com/money/2015/aug/29/women-in-20s-earn-more-men-same-age-study-finds

 

[xvi] https://www.sba.gov/content/women-owned-businesses

 

[xvii] http://time.com/3101429/misandry-misandrist-feminist-womenagainstfeminism/

 

[xviii] http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2014/09/why-do-men-keep-paying-for-the-first-date/380387/

 

[xix] http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/1635092

 

[xx] https://playersjourney.wordpress.com/2013/10/08/dont-scold-women/

 

[xxi] http://www.childresearch.net/data/school/1998_01.html

 

[xxii] http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/11357703/The-Lords-are-wrong-women-are-not-under-represented-in-the-media.html

 

[xxiii] http://www.divorcenet.com/resources/divorce/for-men/divorce-for-men-why-women-get-child-custody-over-80-time

 

[xxiv] http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/dating/5-reasons-divorced-women-get-married-quicker/#.Vl38unarQb0

 

[xxv] http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/no-fault-divorce-vs-fault-divorce-faq-29080.html

 

[xxvi] https://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2014/03/heres-how-to-treat-your-wife-like-a-queen/#.Vl39NHarQb0

 

[xxvii] http://www.ehow.com/how_4451449_treat-woman-like-queen.html

 

[xxviii] http://www.brides.com/blogs/aisle-say/2015/10/what-every-mom-thinks-at-daughters-wedding.html

 

[xxix] http://liftbigeatbig.com/10-reasons-why-heavy-lifting-is-terrible-for-women/

 

[xxx] http://www.bls.gov/cps/demographics.htm